Monday, November 22, 2010

on-line dating

back in may i decided to take the plunge and try on-line dating....it was something i only shared with one other person...mostly because i wasn't sure i was ready for it....but knew i had to at least try....

so, it started....since i first tried it in may, i have since learned from many people that they met their significant other on-line....and have had the opportunity to share some of the stories that go along with on-line dating....

i have a few stories myself....there was the woman who never met me, but was annoyed almost instantly with me because i didn't answer her emails with in a certain prescribed time....of course, i am still not sure what that timeline was, but i think if i answered them within 2 minutes, it still wouldn't have been fast enough....

then there were the two woman who talked to me on the phone a few times each....things seemed to be going well...one asked me to meet for coffee, i agreed, but never heard where or when....the other just stopped communicating altogether....no explanation, nothing....just never heard from her again....

i actually made it on one date....the woman was a little pushy about setting up the date, insisting that it happen the next day and it's over dinner...no matter what i tried to push it back to another day or not dinner, it didn't work....i finally gave in....dinner was painful....it started with the judgmental look she gave my clothes (mind you i was dressed appropriately for the restaurant she picked)....then it painfully lasted 3 hours....she picked up on none of my non-verbals, or even verbal hints....i had made an escape plan for myself, a story about jack being sick, so it was time to bring the story out....so, i used the story and stood up....she got that hint....on our way out, she told me what a great time she had and wanted to see me again....i thought for a minute and decided to be honest....there outside the restaurant i told her that i didn't think things would go anywhere and that i didn't want to try this again....my bluntness didn't sink in, the next day she emailed me about getting together again....i again was straight forward with her....

as i was about to give up on on-line dating, i decided to give one more woman a chance....we met for coffee....which lasted 3 hours....a different kind of 3 hours....we hit it off well, and i am happy to say almost 4 months later, things are still going well....

over the months i have talked to many people who have on-line dating stories....something that i thought i was alone in or a minority at least....but i am happy to hear the stories and to know that lots of people do it....

1 comment:

R3dD4nc3r said...

I am totally happy for you! I met Michael online and 3 1/2 years later he just asked me to move in! I can't say they have all been easy, but I don't think I have ever met anyone more perfect for me! Love you!