Tuesday, October 28, 2008

wwhd

my group in org devo taught class last night...it was about branding and promises....the big question- what promise is ualbany making to it's students.....it's new brand is "the world within reach"....who knows what that is supposed to mean....every student in my class came up with it meaning something different.....not a good mark of a brand.

anyway, on the wwhd....what does that stand for you may ask? it is something we have come up with in class- what would harvard do?-that's right, we ask alot, what would harvard do....we had a whole discussion last night about how so many colleges and universities compare themselves to harvard....and why wouldn't someone not want to be like harvard- the top university in the world....but as i thought about it more, i have never heard anyone in my work settings ask that question....i have never had a director say to me, "how would harvard do that?" of course here at bingo- we do pride ourselves on being a "public ivy" that's right, some book wrote that about us...and we cling to it...we cling to being a premiere institution.....again, because some book said it about us....but if we were like harvard, we wouldn't have to say those things out loud....right? makes sense....harvard stands on it's own.....no one at harvard is working to sell their product, their education....most people would be happy to have a degree from harvard....maybe it should be wwhd....what would hapgood do?- then i would truly be in charge!

i met with my stats professor yesterday too....the homework was overwhelming me and i felt like i was doing it all wrong....my confidence in the class has dropped greatly since my quiz grade....so, i met with her....then when we get to class, lots of people asked her the same questions i did....she volunteered me to teach it to them....i said no....no thank you.....but it did help to know others were having the same problems....the best part of class was when she made up a dance to explain the bell curve.....that's right, she did a little dance in class....

i am not sure that would happen at harvard.

Sunday, October 26, 2008

homework

i have spent the last two days doing homework for my stats class....on saturday i went to the starbucks, by pier one....it was a nightmare. the workers were loud and distracting....they yelled at each other across the store and really were unprofessional....

all the noise in the place made it more and more stressful for me to get my work done....i had gone there to try somewhere new. i stayed for 2 hours and didn't get too much done and really couldn't people watch :(

after i left starbucks, i went to target....there in target was goth girl....now, a friend texted me to tell me she was in target....funny that we were there at the same time....i didn't go looking for her, but came across her looking at cards....the best part- she was looking at halloween cards....of course goth girl would like halloween, makes lots of sense.....she saw me...took a look....i must be making an impression.

today, i went to my normal stomping ground- b and n....i sat at the table and had it to myself for a little bit....then annoying boy came along....yeah, the whole table is empty and he HAS to chose the chair across from me....then he proceeds to shake his leg, which shakes the table....he sighs loudly alot and keeps moving....then he pulled out the earbuds....at this point he starts to shake his whole body as he must be trying to keep beat to his music.....whatever it is, the beat doesn't seem so great. finally, i was sooo annoyed, i asked him to stop....actually it went like this, "excuse me, can you stop? i mean moving and shaking and breathing?" yes, i did ask him to stop breathing....i meant the sighing but i had it....he looked at me, packed up his things and left....well, at least i didn't have to deal with that anymore....

the homework itself seemed easier today....i felt somewhat more relaxed...though i did send the professor an email telling her i was overwhelmed and could she meet with me before class....now this is the same woman who told us that we would all get at least B's....but i can't feel the B....

as for the other people....the sleeping man was sleeping again today! there he sat in a comfy chair, just asleep.....no magazine today....no book....in my head i have decided that he really can't stand to be home with his wife for too long....so, he comes and sleeps.....there was also a couple speaking a different language....it was interesting watching everyone stare at them.....as they chatted away.....

here is the big break through- goth girl talked to me today! that's right, words came out of her mouth directed at me....and they weren't to ask me if i was done looking at something....actually, it's not that big of a break through- i helped her figure out what the cost of something that is 20% would be....and she told me that math wasn't her thing.....and then she asked me if i was a cop- i had my wallet out....so, i explained that to her.....not a huge interaction, but she smiled....not something i have seen her do alot.

other than stats homework, my group also has to teach our org. devo class tomorrow.....our one goal- be better than the other group....we have a powerpoint, have tied our talk back into the reading, and have a great group activity....let's hope we kick some butt.

Tuesday, October 21, 2008

grades

so, i "called in sick" to class last week....i had been having a tough week emotionally and just decided it was best to stay home.

this week i go back to class and get back all my papers, bibliography, quiz, and homework back...all in one night....it's alot to take in....alot to process....and a very nerve racking thing.

so, let's start with stats....i am not sure i explained this, but the stats class is one in which we do not do statistics....we talk about how stats work, but we never actually do the math....for me, it's been a struggle....mostly because i want to do the math....but i also know it's important to know how to read and talk about statistics for those people who don't know anything about them.

now back to the grade....the professor walks in and immediately is like, "now don't be nervous." great i think...it's time to be nervous....then she does her best to hand out our stack of work like she knows our names....in reality, she knows a few names, but not many....she had told us she wouldn't learn our names until the end of the semester, even though for three classes in a row we had to say our names and give her some way to remember us....i was jen and i drive from the "other big state university in binghamton." there was one guy in the class who wanted her to remember his name because he always wears polos....like polo shirts....right, i don't remember his name and that's just a strange thing....but he is right, there hasn't been a monday when he didn't wear a polo shirt....

okay, back to our work....i get my homework and quiz back....and there is a little slip of paper attached to them....that is what holds our grade, not the work itself....however on the work is alot of marks and words that are hard to read....on my little slip of paper i see this....quiz:C....that's right a C! i don't think i have gotten a c on a quiz or test since i was at least a junior in college....i was a little shocked....and very disappointed....i got 2 extra credit points for getting four questions that were worded wrong or didn't contain the right answer correct....but i couldn't get the questions that had the right answers! so, i stared and listened to the professor review the "most missed" questions....i did get all the most missed wrong....there were four of those....on my slip is also a note from her....please write up the extra credit for the quiz and see me ASAP....great....more work for me to get done by monday....

the homework i got an A....so that helped the quiz feel a little better....but still disappointing....now, a few friends have said to me-"it was a bad week." "think of what that week meant to you personally." right friends, i get it....be easier on myself....but really a C?

in my next class, the other group gave their presentation....it was on symbolism....i was a little confused about some of the things we talked about....anyway, there are 12 people in the other group and only 5 in my group.....one person is missing last night, so that makes four of us....that's right, 12 people presented to 4 of us.....4 of us got to decide part of their grade.....they expected the four of us to fill two hours of discussion for them....bad idea....there was some code talking from the professor to our group after class about the other groups teaching....

but at the end of class the professor puts on the table our annotated bibliographies....he says, "you can go through the pile and find yours." i panic a little thinking that our grades are right on top for the world to see as they are digging through the pile....i am not sure why this makes me anxious...other than some of the people in the class rub me the wrong way...

so, i get to the area of the table and find my paper....phew- no grade on the front....it's on the last page....then the professor says that everyone who missed class the week before needed to see him to get our book precis back....i wait and get it back....he has used the review tool in word to write in red his comments and other thoughts....there is the red, all over the paper.....the comments were helpful, mostly about how to further my writing....make it stronger....so, this guy really has intimidated me most of the semester, but after getting back both my pieces of work and getting positive feedback, i feel better....

one last thing....the prof talked in code again to us....my crazy group member has left the class...last week the prof pulled her from the group, then she dropped the class....our code this week was this- "the other group sucked at this teaching thing....you now know how to do it better." ok, that is it's translation....but you get the point.

Saturday, October 11, 2008

remembering

i have been thinking this week that i should write a little about my kristen....it was october, 2006 when i lost her, when we all lost her....but i want to write not to make anyone sad but because of what she did/does for me everyday....my journey has pretty much sucked the last two years, but i guess it's the going on that's important....

anyway, she was in a doctorate program....in april of 2006 she came home from a counseling conference at albany to announce to me she thought maybe she wanted to go back to school....her and one of her bosses had talked about it all day and she felt this was the time..."what do you think?" on thing about kristen was she always was thinking about what was next....and i thought for one second back to the time when she came home and announced to me that she thought she was going to take the state police physical exam and maybe go to the academy....she had scored very high on the written exam and they had called.....it would be good she told me....my answer, "i will support whatever you want to do." the same answer i gave her that day in april about school....

the difference was- she didn't go to the academy...she did get in and start school. that summer we talked about school...what it was going to mean for us everyday, what it meant for her future, how we were going to balance our relationship, families, friends, and everything else....we, of course, were very busy people :), so adding this big commitment in was going to change things....we also talked about my future....she knew that a doctorate was on my mind....so, she told me to ask...."it doesn't hurt to ask. they're letting me do it." but her "they're" was different than my "they're" but i did it...i asked....

that fall i started my studying for the gre's....kristen would study for school, i would study for the exam....well, she studied more than i did....i mostly did other things like knit, quilt, cook....whatever i felt like....and then i studied once in a while....i knew that i could probably study in 8 weeks and be fine....and i hadn't signed up yet, so i would study later....always later. but the plan was i would start the following fall....we would be in school together....supporting each other and getting it done at once....and maybe even commuting together once in a while....

then we lost her....and there was no more studying....

but i knew for her i had to go through with our plan....and that it was going to have to be put off a year....so, here it is two years later and here i am in school....i remind myself when i get frustrated with the drive or the homework or my classmates that in the end, i am doing it for us....and she would be proud.

Tuesday, October 7, 2008

talking in code

earlier i said how i was voluntold by my group to send an email to our professor about our reappearing group member....

as i was writing the email i was thinking about how a few weeks ago our professor approached our group and talked to us in "code"....he reminded us how if there was someone who wasn't performing that we would be able to grade each other at the end of the semester....we of course took that as, "if you have a sucky group member, i should know."

so, in code today i basically told him that our sucky group member hasn't done a thing and she had disappeared and now that she reappeared we don't want her....but in reality we know we have to keep her and she sucks....and we don't want to fail because of her....

anyway, after the group approved my coded she sucks email, i sent it....then the professor replied...in code! first he tells us that sometimes in the "real world there are employees who don't pull their weight." no kidding...but in the real world we are not getting a grade for our degree program....then he encouraged us to be sure to talk with her....duh....and then said we would get to grade each other....great....the best line and most coded- "i will also talk with her about her performance and keep this in mind. please keep me informed of her performance throughout the semester."

even he knows she sucks....without saying he knows she sucks....all in code.

class

the group member has reappeared....that's right, the one with the stolen everything, showed up for class last night. it was crazy to see her....she cut, i mean buzzed, all her hair off....and she was carrying a laptop, i guess to protect it from further bleach incidents....my group was shocked and surprised to see her and we have alot to say to her and the professor about her....which i was voluntold to do....that will be my next task, email the professor.

some have asked about fred flintstone....he has been doing okay....he doesn't sit by me anymore, but has made some friends in the class...so now when he waves, he actually waves at someone....last night our professor started off the lecture by saying, "this is the most difficult part of the course." it was all down hill from there....fred had lots and lots of questions...most of which just repeated what the professor had just said....we are learning about distributions and z-scores...not too hard and we don't even have to do the math....but fred just kept right at the questions.....i do wonder how he got to be where he is without understanding some basic things about the bell curve....especially since i thought faculty grade on a curve ;)....the other thing that happened in class last night is we all got yelled at....well, not so much yelled, but given a little talking to, since everyone was falling asleep....that's right, she stopped class and told us to wake up....and she said some other things, but i didn't listen....

have i told you about the crazy rd lady? probably not....so, she is an rd at a school that is not albany, but a two year suny.....from what she has said this is her third year as an rd....she is in both my classes....until last night she has never once been on time for class....the first night she was an hour late....the second and third she was at least 45 minutes late...the fourth she didn't come at all....but why is she always late? she has a 45 minute commute....not too bad....but everytime she comes in with some crazy story about how she had to do this for this student or that she didn't want to leave her "kids" while they were doing one thing or another....(the kids being her residents)....and she is always a hot mess when she does show up....going on and on about this or that....the best thing she said last night though was this, "we just hired a black basketball coach, now there are four of us on campus!"

i have been going to barnes and noble regularly....lots of things go on there....i highly encourage you to take the time to check the place out....in my last visit i sat at the table so i could type my paper....and two other women were sitting there....studying for an exam....as i was sitting down, one of the women announces that i proctored her LSAT exam the day before...excellent....the other one just smiled at me....so LSAT girl and the other would study a little then start talking about this and that....and then the boy talk started....the other mentioned how she drove down to scranton to visit with a boy...LSAT says, "what's in scranton?" i think, yeah what is in scranton? the other says how they did this and that and it was nice....so when LSAT asked if this was serious the other says, "oh, no." the best response LSAT says- then why did you tell me about it...i giggled a little on the inside....then it was LSAT's turn....from what i could tell she had a recent breakup....the other kept saying, "if it was meant to be..." i wanted to say, "get over it and find yourself a nice boy in law school." but LSAT went on and on about how he said this and did that and what does it mean....really it turned into a complete analysis of the man's every move....poor man.

goth girl was there and different....she was very friendly this week....giving high fives to the coffee people....asking nicely if i was done reading that magazine....smiling....it was wierd...someone must have spiked her coffee.

there was a man who got a magazine, sat down in a comfy chair, and then slept for two hours....the two women at my table got a kick out of him too.....he just slept....i decided he was kicked out of his house by his wife because she was trying to clean and he was in the way....

alex was in...he made friends...they talked about sports....wrongly (and i don't know alot about sports) but they were arguing over who the quarterback was for the giants....and everyone involved was wrong- this i knew....alex also told his new friends about how sometimes his mom comes and waits for him outside and he doesn't like that....and then he got up and walked away from them....no good bye, no it was nice to meet you....just walked away.

Sunday, October 5, 2008

it's been a while

it's been a while....and i have heard from a few people that it's been a while....i know, what can i say, i have been busy....but let me fill you in a little.

i am actually supposed to be writing a paper for my org devo class....i have a little over a page written....but i hate the book i have to write it on and i can't give my personal opinion in the paper, so it's been difficult to stay focused....

this past week we didn't have class because of the jewish holidays....my group for org devo decided we needed to meet this past week anyway, because we have to teach class at the end of the month....so a meeting would help....we also had to pull together an annotated bibliography for our group....we decide to meet at 7:30 in the science library....i have to leave by 5 from work to get there on time....

i get to albany and realize i have NO idea where the science library is....and i didn't look it up before i left....i drive around campus until i see a sign that says, "science library" and have an arrow pointing at a parking lot....i pull in and park....then i start walking....i keep walking and walking and walking....i soon realize that while it has become winter in bingo, it is not winter in albany and i am dressed very warmly....i finally find the science library and it's CLOSED....remember it is break, makes sense.....then the panic starts and the frustration and the anger....why hasn't anyone from my group called or contacted me or anything! what the hell am i supposed to do now?- walk over to the regular libray....i learned where that was during orientation....

i walk in there and i am immediately told, we close at 8pm....it's 7:40. i look around in all the group rooms and tables and everything, no group....i keep thinking, why haven't i heard from my group! i leave the library slightly paniced and decide i am probably going to just drive home....but first i will get something to eat...at this point i had eaten a bag of chips and some gummy worms for dinner....into the campus center i go....i am walking through one of the 800 eatery areas and sitting at a table all together was my group! it was a miracle....but i was completely annoyed....they didn't seemed phase that i might have found them or that i was now 1/2 an hour late.

we have our meeting....the group member, who i wrote about earlier, did not show- big surprise...her phone is probably still stolen....(ok, that was not nice). we decide that we will send our top six references to one person who will pull together and send to our professor our work...done. then we start to discuss the class we have to teach...we have an outline along with the readings for our teaching due on the 13th....what will we talk about? and how funny is it going to be when our group, five people, is listening to the other group, 12 people, teaching....we decided that maybe throughout the other group's lesson we will all get up and go to the bathroom.....then there will be no one left in the class for them to teach.

we go on to start talking about our stupid books, the one i am writing the paper for....and i am the only one who had finished my book....the others had not....they gave me a hard time....i told them i wanted to be able to have fun this weekend and not spend it reading and writing....anyway, i told them my book was stupid and come to find out out of the five of us, four are reading my book....one other person had started our book and she agreed with it's stupidness....thank goodness.

we then decided on a next group meeting, which i will attend virtually....the group agreed they didn't want me driving so much....nice people...they really are. then we went our ways, i drove back to the place where it is winter and left the place where it is not....